'Stop Controlling and Start Coaching'

I was introduced to a song whilst facilitating a parent session last Tuesday...don't remember the title right now... but here are some of the words for us to think about:


 'our children comes from us, but they don't belong to us...they have a mind of their own...






As parents we should consider, adapting our style of parenting from a controlling, adversarial mode to something more like coaching. We should try to think of ourself as a mentors for our children. The typical parent is thinking, "I need to establish control, and my child needs to follow me and do what she’s told." And that works just fine for many children but for some, it is the start of a long and difficult relationship with their parents.  

  






As parents, we should be aware that our temperaments or personality will influence specifically our parenting style/behavior as well as our relationships with our children.   Our children should be treated as  individuals hence we should determine how our personality interacts with that of our children.  


Adapting the 'coaching' approach will help our children to learn to appreciate their unique characteristics hence having the potential of  enhancing their self esteem and self confidence.


written by Jenice Clarke
'Touching billions of lives effortlessly'