Friday, December 10, 2010
'Stop Controlling and Start Coaching'
I was introduced to a song whilst facilitating a parent session last Tuesday...don't remember the title right now... but here are some of the words for us to think about:
'our children comes from us, but they don't belong to us...they have a mind of their own...
As parents we should consider, adapting our style of parenting from a controlling, adversarial mode to something more like coaching. We should try to think of ourself as a mentors for our children. The typical parent is thinking, "I need to establish control, and my child needs to follow me and do what she’s told." And that works just fine for many children but for some, it is the start of a long and difficult relationship with their parents.
As parents, we should be aware that our temperaments or personality will influence specifically our parenting style/behavior as well as our relationships with our children. Our children should be treated as individuals hence we should determine how our personality interacts with that of our children.
Adapting the 'coaching' approach will help our children to learn to appreciate their unique characteristics hence having the potential of enhancing their self esteem and self confidence.
written by Jenice Clarke
'Touching billions of lives effortlessly'
'our children comes from us, but they don't belong to us...they have a mind of their own...As parents we should consider, adapting our style of parenting from a controlling, adversarial mode to something more like coaching. We should try to think of ourself as a mentors for our children. The typical parent is thinking, "I need to establish control, and my child needs to follow me and do what she’s told." And that works just fine for many children but for some, it is the start of a long and difficult relationship with their parents.
As parents, we should be aware that our temperaments or personality will influence specifically our parenting style/behavior as well as our relationships with our children. Our children should be treated as individuals hence we should determine how our personality interacts with that of our children. Adapting the 'coaching' approach will help our children to learn to appreciate their unique characteristics hence having the potential of enhancing their self esteem and self confidence.
written by Jenice Clarke
'Touching billions of lives effortlessly'
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
How to Make Real Connection with My Child???
This article is an extension to my recent blog where you were encouraged to have 'Special Time' on a weekly basis with your child. You implementing 'special time' may be the answer to you and your child enjoying a long and lasting connection.
Remember, children need someone in authority they can bond with. The key to making them successful is becoming that person. You don’t pressure or force for their affections. Instead, you make real connections with them, which will make all the difference in the world. 
By doing this, your child self esteem will flourish hence will become more likeable to others. And when you help your child become likeable, the likelihood of him achieving a joyful and healthy lifestyle is increased.
All the best in connecting with your child.
'Touching the lives of billions of people effortlessly'
Speak soon
Jenice
Remember, children need someone in authority they can bond with. The key to making them successful is becoming that person. You don’t pressure or force for their affections. Instead, you make real connections with them, which will make all the difference in the world. By doing this, your child self esteem will flourish hence will become more likeable to others. And when you help your child become likeable, the likelihood of him achieving a joyful and healthy lifestyle is increased.
All the best in connecting with your child.
'Touching the lives of billions of people effortlessly'
Speak soon
Jenice
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